Caligurl wrote:What can I do to utilise and maximise my 4 days ensuring that I have a great holiday?
Learn how to spell.

Just kidding.
Seriously, there is plenty to do, just depends on what you like.
Check this for the latest.
http://www.iamsterdam.com/
Caligurl wrote:Also, what is the best area/hotel to stay in? Somwhere reasonably priced and close to some great CS's and some great food joints. Would you advise staying somewhere located near the red light district or somwehere further away?
http://www.amsterdamby.com/
http://www.houseboat-rental-amsterdam.com/
IMO, the best area to stay in is the Jordaan. Excellent restaurants as well.
The RLD? I suppose for the "been there, done that, bought the t-shirt" mentality, sure. Could be entertaining to watch the daily/nightly freak show from the hotel.
What do you consider reasonably priced? What do you want for your money? This is Amsterdam don't forget.
No problems being close to some great C/S's because the majority of C/S's in Amsterdam are located within a two mile radius of Dam Square.
Caligurl wrote:Lastly, my partner is non smoker and I was hoping to get some feedback from any non-smokers: did you have a good time and have fun or do you feel like you would have had a better time if you were smoking? I know that I am going to be in smokers heaven and I don't want him to feel left out.
I've been to C/S's with friends who don't smoke and they wouldn't say they had the time of their lives, but they were comfortable and enjoyed themselves. How much fun does a non drinker have in a bar? Depends.
Caligurl wrote:P.S I've never uaed to a bong or pipe, but would really like to try it in Dam. Would it better to get some from home (Camden) or to buy them over there.
Bring with or to take back? Could be problematic. Which airport(s) in the US are you flying in/out of? Are there laws against drug paraphernalia in the State(s) where the airport(s) are located? Something to think about.
Have a great holiday.