Incompatible Relationships :/

[articulomortis]

When I have hassle with my woman, I tell her to shut the fuck up and get back in the kitchen.

LOL! (jokes)

[Marco]

..the 'marriage' lasted 10 years all together, we met on a pill, made love for the first time on a pill, we raved to trance until dawn for a couple of years, I smoked like a marley relative and she never did..we have two kids, I smoked throughout, wouldnt walk round woburn safari or the park with the kids without blazing one, eventually she got pissed off with me smoking and other stuff (the list was bleeding endless), I smoked more cause i could feel the relationship going down the pan, we split up, I smoked more than ever, held onto the job somehow and became a single parent for half the time, free man the other half (more free smoking time), after a year of sitting on my own every night apart from the kids I met a lovely single mum at the school, younger and prettier and far sweeter than the ex, she doesnt smoke or drink, at all, which could have been a problem, hence this discussion.

Three years later we are still happily together , she has smoked a few times only and been to dam twice and watched me disintegrate (the mexican ice in dam wiped her out ), she puts up with me smoking 5/6 spliffs on a saturday night and staggering up to bed coughing, but its cool and I dont drink or watch football so as I keep telling her she is a very luck lady - actually Im the lucky one to have found someone so sweet and understanding of what I do...and in return I always try and remember that a good hearted women who lets me smoke to obliteration and likes watching violent gory films is a rare thing indeed...oh and she gets wrecked every now and again at random from the fumes, all of a sudden she has red eyes and nods off...and Im really really nice to her because she deserves adoration and I never row or sulk like I used to, that seems to help too

The ex has now remarried, out of the blue she met an italian man 12 years her junior, they go raving whenever its not their turn to have the kids (she's nearly 50 now), he spliffs (the irony of it) and shwe swears blind that its the first time she has ever felt true love - charming

But you know what, life goes on and my kids are my world (apart from the lovely GF and my spliffs and my music). Now if i was honest I think the worst thing in the world would be a spliff hungry girlfriend - id have to share my joints

Good read. Its strange the places life takes us. The secret to a successful relationship is certainly respect and it sounds like you have it this time.

[chichi]

Well put SirNiall. Thing is, I'm tired of playing the "i'm interested in what you're saying babe" game. That said, I had a real nice talk with her yesterday. Real nice - I told her I'm off to Amsterdam this month and she flipped out. I'm starting to think that I'm the problem and not her... I booked up and without telling her or anything and I know how she can get like. I asked her if she wanted to come Adam too, but um... I got told "You dumb ass - what would I do there? Watch you get high with your buddies? no thanks" and that was that... well, not exactly, I felt bad and apologised repeatedly for being a sucker for Amsterdam. It didn't go down too well.

She's a lovely girl, and we do get on like 2 school kids bunking school - just when she's serious about stuff, I'm not and vice versa lol. Just spoke to here about 5 minutes ago, I answered the phone and first thing she says is "Oh babe, Sorry for arguing with you last night - jsut, I wished you consulted me more about stuff"... "about what stuff babe?" I asked. "Well, about you going off and booking your trip to amsterdam and not telling me about it til after. We're a couple and it hurts me that your friends know your plans before I do. I feel like second best." Yes, yes, I know - I'm a real asshole I felt bad so am taking her out this Friday night. And to make it an evening of atonement for my bad ways - I'm not gonna smoke any weed while I'm with her... (I'll just get real stoned beforehand)

TD, let me tell you a story about me and my ex-fiance. I stayed at hers about a year back, i got along with her brother very well and went out and got pissed with him. Anyways on the way back he dared me to shit on her dining room table, a dare being a dare and him tellng me he'd get me a kebab if i done it i dropped the kegs and done the deed. Anyways, the next day completely forgetting this i send her downstairs to get a coffee while i was puking out the hangover in the bog and low and behold she discovers aforementioned dump. This does not please her. So she comes upstairs screaming about a shit being on the table and at this point i get a flashback and think....

'OH FUCK'

But, she says, ' The Dog's taken a shit on the table.'

That dog's still not allowed in her house, i used to feel bad when i'd be sitting inside drinking a cup of tea and the little bastard would be at the back door in the rain. But he was tough bastard...well he was got hit by a car recently apparently.

Anyways my point is when blokes get together we do stupid shit that doesn't please [most] girls. So it's probably right your miss's doesn't wana be out with you and the boys in 'dam partying the night away. That's why two worlds exisit in the world...

Guy World - containing all the banter and fun shit we love without any of the agro.

Girl World - containing a mix of interesting shit and boring shit that confuses us but we put up with it either because we're a soppy bollocks and love the girl enough to go through it or shes got an awesome rack.

Don't stress your head man, just remember that when your with the Miss's your all about the love and that shit, when your with the blokes you let your hair down and chill out. That's why it's important to have mates, and also important to not sacrafice your mates for your girl. Saying that don't sacrafice your girl for your mates either; find the middle ground man.

Sounds like it's a normal relationship to me man, only you know if you're happy, but it's not sunshine all year round...sometimes we get pissed on a bit. But if it's worth it in the end, don't stress your head.

Sorry to tell you that I think this post is terribly, terribly, terribly.......







fucking hilarious. I knew some guys that took a dump in a girls water tray she had on top of a radiator for humidity.

[Trichome_Dense]

FFS - She calls me and asks "do you love me?"
"Yes, of course - what's wrong babe?" standard response.
"I don't think you do. You just say that you love me. If you loved me, you'd take me to Amsterdamn with you - or not go at all"

... So I fucking hung up the phone. I give up trying to figure out women... seriously! Or maybe I'm just dense - as the name suggests. Either way, I'm fucking pissed at this crap. Y'all know from one of my previous posts inb this thread that I asked her to come with me and got jarred... damn. I'm a weed smoker, and even my memory aint as bad as hers!

She's calling me repeatedly, but I am NOT answering. I've had my dose of stupid comments today... + It's a monday and I fucking hate mondays...

Ok OK DAMMIT - ye ye I'm the bad guy, I should answer the phone and "pretend" that I didn't offer her to come Amsterdam with me, right? meh X 1000 recurring.

What does a guy do? ... gah, look where I am - "ACD" - time to roll one and just chill...

Any brits remember the old Hmalet cigar adverts? "Happiness is a cigar called Hamlet" WRONG - it's joint with my name written on it ya muggs!

[LadyJane]

FFS - She calls me and asks "do you love me?"
"Yes, of course - what's wrong babe?" standard response.
"I don't think you do. You just say that you love me. If you loved me, you'd take me to Amsterdamn with you - or not go at all"

Whoa. How's that for being manipulative? If she loved, and accepted you (good and bad), she wouldn't have tried to pull that. That was about control, not love.

[Trichome_Dense]

That's what I think too. I'm upset at this debacle which is happening all too often these days.

[templeball]

Top thread TD
Id say Gipsy Lee would read your palm now and see that you are are probably without any choice but to take your aggrieved girlfriend with you to dam or not go, like she says. Its not about whose right, she's right, thats how it is when it comes to these things, probably shes wondering whats so special about dam, maybe in a suspicous or just curious way. Therefore shed like to see it for herself, and if you dont agree its like saying to her you put your weed before her (manspeak) or it means that you dont love her (womenspeak)...you are in a tricky spot now alas...
The obvious but riskiest choice is to take her, and try and behave

Mistakes ive made in the past in very similar if not identical scenario with aforementioned ex:
leaving her for 10 mins on a canal bridge off dam sq whilst I popped into a coffeshop secretly for a quick 25guilder bag, net result was a furious looking girlfriend upon return, didnt speak to me for the rest of the afternoon as she had been taken by several men as a hooker standing there etc etc. Take it as a compliment sprang to mind but didnt dare say it.

Encouraging her to smoke upstairs in Bluebird thinking if she wasted I can get really wasted too and not feel guilty, bad etc, only she couldnt get up for an hour from the chair, nearly did a burton down the spiral stairs and refused to walk. I had so many other coffeshops nearby and the frustration killed me, then she got stuck outside a coffeshop in the RLD and wouldnt get up and the owners were getting really narcy with us for not moving on after drinks etc, and she walked far too fast funnily enough through the red light windows which was really frustrating, when youre stoned you just want to gawp, lets face it, or i do anyway

On my last trip, I had prepared my new ever-suffering kind sweetheart for the hoes as we walked through the RLD and what to expect, and with the rough ones we were ok, but as soon as we hit the really fit almost nudie east europeans and she could smell the sex in the air and all the greasy men (and probably me incl. she was no doubt imagining) all slobbering around them, she did her nut and stropped off for a bit. She was cool after but just thought it was a bit much, which is fair comment. So we avoided walking past the fit hoes after that

Lastly my ever-suffering sweetie had declined smokes for several days last trip, so i offered her some of the new untried mexican ice one very chilled evening back at our apartment opposite vondelpark. Two drags, she shut her sweet lovely forgiving eyes, and that was the end of the night. I carried on obviously (so in smoking terms top night, im fucking smashed on it and the poor thing didnt move a muscle for an age but was very peaceful, but in relationship-spending-nice-time-abroad -together its gonna go down as 'that lost night'), and was woken by her moving for the first time in hours, and I was in exactly the same position as I had nodded off in, i.e. holding the spliff half finished up in the air with the ashtray still precariously balanced on my chest, apparently it looked 'seedy'..i know, i know, but its such fun methinks...anyway again it was forgotten by the morning but she did say quietly later the next day that maybe it would be better if I came back to Dam on my own.... DUNUH, RESULT Shes now seen it, she knows exactly what ill be doing cos we did it, and that could be your destiny too.....good luck my friend, you may need it if you tread this dangerous path...

[Trichome_Dense]

+1. I enjoyed that ... Very much

You nutter

[LadyJane]

ha ha ha "fit hoes....."

[templeball]

ha ha ha "fit hoes....."

hope it didnt offend, but what can I say, as a stoned observer there's the horrors (by old church), the really attractive ones with stunning bodies- the fit ones (behind RLD bulldog) and the 'be careful what you seek' ones on the side alleys, my girlfriend moaned at the lack of men in g-strings to oggle at...

[LadyJane]

None taken at all. I almost fell over in laughter when I read that.

I'm a fairly confident woman so as I was reading your post, I was thinking:

"I like to maintain my figure so.....yeah, it wouldn't bother me if my boyfriend wants to check out those women, who need to earn a living, I guess. It's okay."

Then I read,fit hoes, and thought:

"now THOSE hoes..... " Thanks for the laugh.

[templeball]

None taken at all. I almost fell over in laughter when I read that.

I'm a fairly confident woman so as I was reading your post, I was thinking:

"I like to maintain my figure so.....yeah, it wouldn't bother me if my boyfriend wants to check out those women, who need to earn a living, I guess. It's okay."

Then I read,fit hoes, and thought:

"now THOSE hoes..... " Thanks for the laugh.

really glad I hadnt offended
My physio who is in his early 60's told me recently of where he took his wife to amsterdam where they used to live and she mentioned that he was perfectly ok to have an encounter with one of the window girls, but on the condition that she was able to decide who was the most 'appropriate' working girl for him. I thought that was a very elegant solution in relationship terms as he clearly would end up having chosen for him 'a horror' or 'tranny', thats what she'd surely pick, so that ended that with her appearing very liberal but without him going any further, he thought it was an admirable and very clever offer, and well handled on her part I thought..

[LadyJane]

agreed - quite reasonable I think. ha ha.

[minus orange]

Trichome_Dense, I can see where your girlfriend's coming from by being upset about you not speaking with her before booking your trip. But this ultimatum she gave you is well out of order. Emotional blackmail is never good in a relationship.

I've been with my boyfriend for about 6 and a half years. When we started seeing one another, I didn't smoke anything and he used to do bongs like they were going out of fashion. We started smoking joints together about a year into the relationship, and I've been smoking ever since. He gave up about 2 years ago, whereas I'm more into it than ever. He does moan about the amount I smoke at times, which I think is highly hypocritical given the amount he used to smoke. I won't be bullied into smoking less though.

He's been to the Dam countless times before we started our relationship, and a few times with his friends in the early days. I'd been dying to get to Amsterdam for a few years, but when he gave up he ruled the idea out.
Finally got him to go with me last year, and we've been back 3 times since then. Even though he doesn't smoke anything at all now, he still loves the place as much as he did back then.
We've found a happy medium in the way we spend our trip, we'll spend a bit of time in a few coffeeshops, then we'll go to some smoker-friendly bars where I can smoke and he can drink.
I love the RLD as well, and happily do a few laps of it each day with him. We don't go in but wouldn't rule it out in the future.

[lampshade]

FFS - She calls me and asks "do you love me?"
"Yes, of course - what's wrong babe?" standard response.
"I don't think you do. You just say that you love me. If you loved me, you'd take me to Amsterdamn with you - or not go at all"

Whoa. How's that for being manipulative? If she loved, and accepted you (good and bad), she wouldn't have tried to pull that. That was about control, not love.

TD interesting thread man. Agree with Ladyjane, but she's shit testing you and depending on your response it will pave the way for the rest of your relationship. I think you did well freezing her out for acting liking this.

LS, welcome to the mobile phone with more selotape club