How long can someone keep up a pretence

[steven]

How long can someone keep up a pretence? Well my hat goes off to one particular member of the forum for managing 2yrs..... 

Regular members will know exactly who I'm referring about, so to save her some grace I'll not name her but for those who do want to know then just ask and I'll let you know.....

Ive taken a long time to think about doing this and could have done it when I was heartbroken, angry, or depressed .... But no I've waited and now feel its time to forewarn others about her double life....

Now I don't care about her allies or anyone wishing to take sides, that isn't the meaning of doing this and if I can save at least one person from falling into her fantasy world of lies and manipulation in the future then it's been worth posting.....

I met her off here in 2010 when I was planning my first solo trip,  she approached me and asked if she could "hijack" my trip and come with me, from that day we started an affair which lasted nearly 2years,  during this time we both planned to be together, and she influenced me with her words of love and promises that we would both leave our partners and be together so despite being told by friends and family to take my rosé tinted glasses off I walked out of my marriage 18months ago. It took a long time for my family to accept her, allowing her to play step-mother to my children,  they eventually liked her and having her around but all she was doing was manipulating them with gifts and words... 

That was because she had this advantage of having a sea between us and I rarely went over the water and when I did we always had to rent somewhere in the middle of nowhere... She told me she had left her home and her husband knows about us, that her family knew all about me, that her father knew everything, and she would like me to meet them etc but always made an excuse not to...... And things never ever added up making me suspicious which she always blamed on weed making me paranoid and during a stressful time between us recently I ended up speaking to her sibling, the one she confided in and knows everything and has even been to her "new home"...  

Maybe calling wasn't a good idea but I'm sure as hell glad i did.... it actually turned out they  knew absolutely nothing of this double life, they never even heard of me,  never knew about my children who she claimed to tell everyone about and they certainly weren't aware she had moved out, let alone left her husband and to this day she is still living with her husband...  She admitted these lies and this was the end of our relationship, I could never ever believe what was true and what wasn't, I was taking in for 2yrs with her pretence and double life and had to end this one sided affair.. 

So like I say my hat goes off to her keeping up a great pretence, she's been nothing but a fake liar who has conned 2yr of my life and changed it completely, and no doubt some folk on here will take  their hats off to her due disliking me but I'm now happier being on my own, I  have regular access to my children and now have money to treat them and myself, my conscience is clear and the only people I feel sorry for is her husband she's cheated on and is totally oblivious of her ways and any other member who has been taking in by her fake lies.....

If you know anyone who can beat that or have also been a victim of being duped in a fake relationship then post away.  

[USbongLord]

I'll ask then

[steven]

PM sent

[Willjay]

I'm curious

[steven]

Ive sent you a pm willjay

[spidergawd]

How long can someone keep up a pretence? Well my hat goes off to one particular member of the forum for managing 2yrs..... 

Regular members will know exactly who I'm referring about, so to save her some grace I'll not name her but for those who do want to know then just ask and I'll let you know.....

Ive taken a long time to think about doing this and could have done it when I was heartbroken, angry, or depressed .... But no I've waited and now feel its time to forewarn others about her double life....

Now I don't care about her allies or anyone wishing to take sides, that isn't the meaning of doing this and if I can save at least one person from falling into her fantasy world of lies and manipulation in the future then it's been worth posting.....

I met her off here in 2010 when I was planning my first solo trip,  she approached me and asked if she could "hijack" my trip and come with me, from that day we started an affair which lasted nearly 2years,  during this time we both planned to be together, and she influenced me with her words of love and promises that we would both leave our partners and be together so despite being told by friends and family to take my rosé tinted glasses off I walked out of my marriage 18months ago. It took a long time for my family to accept her, allowing her to play step-mother to my children,  they eventually liked her and having her around but all she was doing was manipulating them with gifts and words... 

That was because she had this advantage of having a sea between us and I rarely went over the water and when I did we always had to rent somewhere in the middle of nowhere... She told me she had left her home and her husband knows about us, that her family knew all about me, that her father knew everything, and she would like me to meet them etc but always made an excuse not to...... And things never ever added up making me suspicious which she always blamed on weed making me paranoid and during a stressful time between us recently I ended up speaking to her sibling, the one she confided in and knows everything and has even been to her "new home"...  

Maybe calling wasn't a good idea but I'm sure as hell glad i did.... it actually turned out they  knew absolutely nothing of this double life, they never even heard of me,  never knew about my children who she claimed to tell everyone about and they certainly weren't aware she had moved out, let alone left her husband and to this day she is still living with her husband...  She admitted these lies and this was the end of our relationship, I could never ever believe what was true and what wasn't, I was taking in for 2yrs with her pretence and double life and had to end this one sided affair.. 

So like I say my hat goes off to her keeping up a great pretence, she's been nothing but a fake liar who has conned 2yr of my life and changed it completely, and no doubt some folk on here will take  their hats off to her due disliking me but I'm now happier being on my own, I  have regular access to my children and now have money to treat them and myself, my conscience is clear and the only people I feel sorry for is her husband she's cheated on and is totally oblivious of her ways and any other member who has been taking in by her fake lies.....

If you know anyone who can beat that or have also been a victim of being duped in a fake relationship then post away.  

And what about you then , didn't you lead a double life ? Looks like you both played away and it didn't work out. get on with your life and stop playing the victim, you're the only one you're feeling sorry for by the sound of it.

And the rest of you stop being nosy and do some research .

[TwoCanucks]

And the rest of you stop being nosy and do some research .

Lol, been trying hah

[spidergawd]

Oh, and lay off the COWBELL maybe.

[steven]

Believe me spideygawd feeling sorry is the last thing ill ever feel, as for leading a double life myself well yes I did, and did it for 3 months until I decided to leave my wife and be with this fake, so having her sitting in my parents house, visit my sisters, brothers, taking my children out for meals, nah there was no lies there nor was it a double life, it was me who was kept apart from her family and unbeknown to me I was driving to and fro the airport collecting her and her husband was sat at home oblivious, well according to what her sibling told me, to which the fake admitted it was true, so like I say my hat goes off to her for the pretence....  And I am getting on with my life and play the victim, there's no playing anything here just forewarning others to be on the gaurd... She's ruined to many lives with her lies...

[Uncle Ron]

Oh, and lay off the COWBELL maybe.

I think he might need MORE Cowbell...

No doubt hurting, probably embarrassed, and possibly feeling a bit ridiculed...
... and although I feel for him, I'm not sure posting that he got played was such a good idea.
Save her some grace? This above all else in the story struck me as utter BULLSHIT.
This woman played him, played his family, played her family, and he wants to do WHAT?

Steven, send you a PM and you will respond with her name, dude, seriously?
Move on...

[redeyezman]

Making babies is fun

[Twichaldinho]

What A fucking looser, hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahah.....wait..... Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahah

And just for laughs.... HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

Could not have happened to a more worthwhile person.... Erse cheats on Wife, leaves family for chick, then chick leaves him.... I fucking love it.... I hope you cried, and cried.. I hope you were depressed, I hope you're kids hated you for walking out, I hope you're wife meets a better, more successful man, who wont suffer wandering eyes.... Praise the lord for this Sunday Cracker....

When yer handed lemons, make lemonade... I just hope, like your attitude, its bitter as fuck

[Lazaris]

take responsibility for your choices and stop this childish BS

you have no one to blame but YOURSELF

[winnie]

Ive sent you a pm willjay

Geri Carlisle?

[steven]

What A fucking looser, hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahah.....wait..... Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahah

And just for laughs.... HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

Could not have happened to a more worthwhile person.... Erse cheats on Wife, leaves family for chick, then chick leaves him.... I fucking love it.... I hope you cried, and cried.. I hope you were depressed, I hope you're kids hated you for walking out, I hope you're wife meets a better, more successful man, who wont suffer wandering eyes.... Praise the lord for this Sunday Cracker....

When yer handed lemons, make lemonade... I just hope, like your attitude, its bitter as fuck

I wouldn't expect anything different from a down and out hearts inbred, I told you in my first post, her allies can go fuck themselves....