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jenhen · Post by **jenhen** » Sat 29th Apr 2006 10:43 pm

...which in turn begs the question: apart from your toking companions, do your colleagues, neighbours, friends, family etc know about your cannabis consumption?

I'm pretty open with certain 'straight' friends & family, in fact if I didn't break out the 'funny fags' or offer special brownies after dinner they'd be surprised

Other people, like my mum, I wouldn't even think of partaking while in her company but when she asked directly "was that a joint you were smoking in that picture?" I didn't lie.

Colleagues & clients are a different matter. There are some of them I'd love to get stoned with, far healthier and more fun than getting pissed up which is socially acceptable. But it could be, erm, career limiting to be known as a dopehead so I tend to keep quiet about my nightly spliff with them....

Rez · Post by **Rez** » Sat 29th Apr 2006 11:32 pm

I'm 35 and I'm pretty open about the fact that I toke, most of my direct family know. My parents are cool and have tried a smoke before. I once got my dad demented on the pipe... he still denied feeling any effects even though his deniels where slurred through fits of giggling.

I'm suprised when I find out somebody smokes, just as I'm suprised at how differently people view the bud. Those that have a positive view of the bud, I have no problem with you knowing I smoke. Whilst I have no time for people that have no experience of tokin yet hold a negative view.

As for work collegues, there are some I think do smoke and some I would like to get high with. There are also some that would be shocked at the thought. Therefore, I make sure that NOBODY at work knows. I'm out on the road all day so rarely see collegues. I make house calls and have sometime been in a house that clearly has bud in it and the homeowner is clearly high... I just can't tell them that I know the smell because I'm a toker too though, it's more than my jobs worth.

I have two 13 y/o boys who I think will soon start guessing what that smell is when I go out the back garden of an evening... that's going to be tough.

Rez

Doog · Post by **Doog** » Sun 30th Apr 2006 11:40 am

I am 31 and I live with my parents and they know that I like to indulge when I get the opportunity and they are fine with it as long as I keep the smoke within the confines of my room and open the window so that the smoke and smell don't linger for too long.

Most of my work colleagues have certainly tried smoking but there are none who are regular tokers anymore and of course they all know that I like to do it as I have been to Amsterdam three times since I've been working with them.

I'm not in the sort of high profile job that might be affected by others finding about about my illicit acitvities and I certainly would never ever go to work directly after a smoke. I've never even been to work with a hangover.

Both of those are a total no-no (I'm a forklift driver mainly y'see)

jenhen · Post by **jenhen** » Sun 30th Apr 2006 12:43 pm

Rezin_8_ed wrote:I have two 13 y/o boys who I think will soon start guessing what that smell is when I go out the back garden of an evening... that's going to be tough.

Yet another interesting turn in this thread...

Are you sure your 13 year olds haven't already sussed you? I only ask because when my friend's lad of the same age caught me skinning up at a festival he turned out to know a lot more than I did about strains of cannabis and rolling techniques. When I told him how much I was paying an online supplier he told me I'd been ripped off - apparently they can get it at a quarter of the price in the playground at school

(I'm proud to say that was 2 years ago and I've resisted the temptation to ask him for a hookup although I would dearly LOVE to find a local face to face dealer!)

With my 12 year old I'm fairly open - she's used to see me relaxing with a j at the end of the day but knows that it isn't something recommended by me or anyone for developing brains. Touch wood so far so good - as far as I know she doesn't mix with the stoners or smokers at school and she's getting good grades and going to loads of extra-curricular activities - music, dance, drama - costs me a fortune so I can't afford to fund a dope habit too

If she did start to show anything more than a passing interest I'd stop smoking in front of her.

Rez · Post by **Rez** » Fri 5th May 2006 11:43 am

I'm not sure if I've been sussed or not... My Lad once asked me if I'de been drinking and he looked a little "unimpressed" with me

at 12 years old too. Kinda got me thinking he knew and he didnt approve.

I'm the joker at home anyway, even more so when wasted but as the lads are getting older they are also staying up later... and at a weekend they might be up untill 11pm, now thats just too late to start smoking. I wanna be blazing staright after my dinner. (5-7pm ish usually).

I'm not confessing until I'm busted by my kids, then I'll explain... not sure if thats right (ethically) or not. But for now, what they dont know wont hurt them and for fear of any negative impact, I'll toke in secret.

Rez

back2thedam · Post by **back2thedam** » Fri 5th May 2006 11:48 am

mi mate and his mrs kept it abig secret for years then decided to come out to the kids. the reaction was "yeah, now tell us somethin we dont know" the kids had known for years and couldnt care less. neither of them has ever smoked a doob!

X · Post by X » Fri 5th May 2006 06:05 pm

Darksensory wrote:lol. I'm younger than all you! 19 yrs old and counting lol, I'm a freshman in college.

same here.. 18 years young and not even half way through it mate!

does that make me the youngest???

peace,

Stygian23 · Post by **Stygian23** » Fri 5th May 2006 06:37 pm

Nope. I believe Weed is a Deed is 17.

X · Post by X » Fri 5th May 2006 08:53 pm

wow! nice so there are a few youngsters on this site! good to know! but whats even better to know is that we share the same interest, trip about the same things, and have the same hobbie whether we're 60 or 17! we all share one common thing: we love weed, and most of us are reprimanded for it!!! it brings us together like no other activity on this earth!

seriously, name one other things that bring such an array of generations together in a fight for freedom..? (you might give me another example, I havn't really thought it out

but I'm sure there won't be that many..)

and its this unity that I value most on this forum (more than the knowledge available here, thats just a side product..)

Peace,
Scott.

X · Post by X » Fri 5th May 2006 09:00 pm

also, someone asked the question "what do other people know/think about your cannabis consumption?"

first of all my parents: well, it was hard for them to swollow the whole thing, but since they caught me every other day, in the end, they understood I wasn't a junki of any sort.. just making my way with a few joints here and there.. so in the end, as long as everything is going well for me, they'll tolerate my cannabis consumption.

my brother is just like me, except his less of a "stoner" if you see what I mean.. I'm interested in the cannabis culture, coffeeshops, the fight for legalization, and appreciating weed itself.. he doesn't really care about any of that, as long as he can enjoy a his joints without too much problems (his 23, but we're like twin brothers really

)

my broader familly: hardly any know I'm that much of a stoner, and those who know take it as a benediction as they can enjoy some top weed with their cousin/uncle (me

)

friends, same thing..

there is also the fact that I live in belgium where legalization is half way there; I'm sure weed consumption wouldn't be that easily accepted for people living in the states for example (

)..

In belgium 2 shops have now OPENED in Namure and sell weed and hash.. their ok, but Namure is a shitty small city in bumblefuck nowhere, and don't get any ideas.. the shops are nothing like holland's coffeeshops, but their a sure, and good source of weed, I must say!

word.

Peace,
Scott.

Pharcyde · Post by **Pharcyde** » Fri 5th May 2006 10:25 pm

I'm with JenHen anybody who knows me would be surprised if i didn't offer a peep on the pipe after dinner, well before and during also. Smoked with the immediate fam's, not something I wish to repeat on a regular basis because they always pass out on the couch. But my cousins and in-laws are a blast to smoke with. One cousin is a grower and the in-laws are Chileans who were exiled under Pinochet, great conversationist. We have a smokers gazebo at work so I guess that tells you the enviroment at work. Always been pretty lucky in that regard. Had a job once where the interview took place in the managers van over a GIANT bowl of Humboldt's finest.

X · Post by X » Sat 6th May 2006 12:25 am

Rezin_8_ed and and JenHen:

ofcourse I can't offer a 13 year old's point of view as there is a big difference in maturity between a 13 year old and an 18 year old. On top of this, it doesn't sound like your kids are toke-heads, and so much the better (at such a young age!).

but if you ever get "busted" by your kids or ever get to that moment where you need to explain.. its much better (just thinking of what my relationship to my father would be like) to simply tell them exactly what the situation is, and to simply be open about it.. I have no idea of what it is like to be a father, but if my dad toked up and I found out about it, it would make the whole situation very awkward to see my father change his toking habits (which I would have been used to since the begining!) just because as of now I knew what it was..

I'm not sure you get my point as its a little confusing.. but basically, I believe my dad changing his toking habits BECAUSE I know what it is would simply reinforce the fact that its an evil thing to do and that it has o be hidden etc..

to the contrary, I believe a nice (long?) chat with RATIONAL (as opposed to what you get taught in school and read in newspapers) explanation of why, and the pro's and con's of weed get you to. also, clearly explain that marijuana should in NO WAY be used to find a better life or a better way of living through the every day life, because that is when cannabis leads to other drugs. life is beautiful as it is, marijuana just accounts for a better picture and a priviledge in order to just enjoy a nice night.

just a rational explanation is better than portraying it as a bad and evil thing is my point of view.. with a little maturity and thinking, ANY kid will get that. also that its not a thing to go tell friends as a "dope father" but more as a private thing that each individual lives as he/she likes.

so much to ponder on....
all yours,

Peace,
Scott.

Stygian23 · Post by **Stygian23** » Sat 6th May 2006 12:46 am

In America it is best to NEVER smoke anywhere near your kids, or to keep yer weed in the house where your kids can find it. Why, you ask? Because the schools and cops actively teach kids to turn in their parents for drug use (5 year olds are taught about heroin, cocaine, marijuana, etc.. have to love the DARE programs). The state then takes your kids away and tries to lock your ass up. It is 1984 and the times they ain't a changin'.

Rez · Post by **Rez** » Sat 6th May 2006 10:29 am

Great comments Scott and it's very nice to have a younger person's view on this issue. It's also very nice to have such a diverse bunch of people into a common thing.

As and when the time arrives I'll be completely honest about the bud and hopefully educate the lads a little. It will be a fine balance between my parental instinct to portrey the bud as an evil piece of stuff that will ruine your life and the complete opposite of that... the truth.

They are sensible lads and anything serious that I've had to explain in the past has been well absorbed.

Styg, I'm also both; "in-favour of" and "against" this policing system.

Yes it will educate the kids but only the negative side of drugs. Surely it must plant the curiosity seed firmly into the enquisitive minds...?

OK, maybe not all kids are like me but if I knew that this drug did these bad things to me and there are so many thousands, hundreds of thousands ?? of people using it, SURELY there must be a really good side to it too....??

Rez

Doog · Post by **Doog** » Sat 6th May 2006 10:37 am

Rezin_8_ed wrote:OK, maybe not all kids are like me but if I knew that this drug did these bad things to me and there are so many thousands, hundreds of thousands ?? of people using it, SURELY there must be a really good side to it too....??

An excellent point and one of the major reasons why younger generations start on drugs (apart from peer pressure and a desire to escape for a while from a humdrum existence of hanging round street corners or bus shelters.

Not all kids are like that of course and there will be some who will never even touch tobacco or any other drugs during their lives.

As far as I'm concerned people can do what they want with their lives, as long as they don't start attacking other people simply because they can't do the things they want to do as often as they want to do them.